Concerns About Being the Best Man
DEAR ABBY: My brother recently got engaged and asked me to be his best man. While I’m happy for him, I have concerns about his relationship. His girlfriend tends to control him and craves attention at family events. I worry that he’s settling. If he does ask me to be his best man, I’m not sure if I can truly support their relationship. What should I do? – “WORST MAN” IN NEW YORK
DEAR “WORST MAN”: Take some time before making any decisions. It’s possible that your brother’s fiancee will have a say in choosing the best man. If she has a close male relative, you may be off the hook. However, if you are asked, it’s important to be honest with your concerns in a diplomatic manner.
Challenges of Being a Single Mom
DEAR ABBY: I am a 57-year-old single mom with four children living at home. One of my daughters is in college and working towards a good-paying job. Another daughter has intellectual delays and refuses to help with household chores. My third daughter is also in college but is messy, and my son is extremely messy and ignores me when I ask him to clean up. What should I do? – MESSED UP IN PENNSYLVANIA
DEAR MESSED UP: It’s clear that you need to assert your authority as a parent. Sit down with your children and clearly communicate your expectations and the consequences for not meeting them. If they continue to disregard your rules, it may be necessary to consider asking them to leave. By giving them everything without teaching them responsibility, you have contributed to this problem.
Considering a Rooster in a Residential Area
DEAR ABBY: I have a flock of chickens and am considering getting a rooster to add excitement for the hens. However, I live in a community with neighbors, and I’m concerned about the early morning crowing. What should I do? – WAITING TO CROW IN MASSACHUSETTS
DEAR WAITING: Before getting a rooster, it’s important to consider the impact on your neighbors. Talk to them and get their input before making a decision. It’s better to address any potential concerns beforehand to maintain good relationships.
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
