How to Enjoy Newfound Freedom Responsibly
Growing up with strict parents who used money as a means of control, I have finally achieved financial independence after landing my dream job. However, I’m now faced with the question of how to avoid going wild and indulging excessively in my newfound freedom.
Resisting the Temptation to Go Overboard
With the freedom to do whatever I want, I’m tempted to go out, party, drink, dance, and start dating. However, I’m concerned about indulging without going over the top and potentially negatively impacting my job performance or facing lasting consequences.
While I’ve been enjoying concerts, staying up late, and eating junk food, I’ve noticed that I may be drinking too much. I want to find a balance and ensure that my freedom doesn’t lead to excessive behavior in other aspects of my life.
Transitioning from College to Independent Living
I understand that most people go through this phase in college, where they have roommates, a class schedule, and limited funds. However, I find myself navigating this transition on my own, with a job I love and enough money to go out as often as I please.
Although I know I should be saving and budgeting, I haven’t established a formal plan yet. While I have some savings and regularly contribute to it, I’ve been spending too much on clothes. Nevertheless, I enjoy the freedom of choosing my own wardrobe.
Advice for Enjoying Freedom Responsibly
As someone who has recently achieved financial freedom, I’m seeking advice on how to enjoy my newfound independence in a responsible and healthy way. I want to avoid going wild and ensure that I make wise choices for my future.
One suggestion for avoiding overspending and preparing for the future is to start saving a predetermined amount from each paycheck. It’s worth exploring if your employer offers a program where money can be automatically withheld and placed in a retirement account.
Additionally, considering your strict upbringing, it may be beneficial to seek guidance from a licensed psychotherapist. They can help you navigate your newfound freedom and provide support in making responsible choices without feeling the need to compensate by “running wild.”
Age Shouldn’t Determine Wedding Shower Eligibility
Turning 45 and entering your first marriage, you may wonder if it’s appropriate to have a wedding shower. Despite not being “just starting out” and it being your fiance’s second marriage, there is no breach of etiquette in having a wedding shower at your age.
If your friends are insisting on hosting a wedding shower for you and registering for key serving pieces or art pieces, embrace the opportunity and enjoy yourself. Age should not be a determining factor in whether or not you have a wedding shower.
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
