Should I Ask for Permission to Date My Friend’s Ex-Girlfriend?
I am a single male in my 40s and have recently started developing feelings for one of my friend’s ex-girlfriends, Pam. Pam and my friend, Tom, dated for five months but broke up eight months ago. We both have feelings for each other, but Pam has asked me not to say anything to Tom and let him find out on his own. However, I am torn between respecting her wishes and doing what I believe is right as Tom’s friend. What should I do?
Respecting Pam’s Wishes While Considering Tom’s Feelings
Before making any decisions, have an open conversation with Pam about your concerns. Explain that you are unsure how Tom will react if he sees the two of you together without any warning. While he may not care, there is also a possibility that he could feel upset about the situation. Let Pam know that, considering your friendship with Tom, you prefer being upfront and honest because you value transparency and dislike keeping secrets.
Sharing the Proceeds from Selling Your Late Mother’s Collectibles
After your mother’s passing, you have taken on the responsibility of sorting through her collectibles, with minimal help from your siblings. You sold some scrap gold that your mother had collected and received $900. Now, you are wondering if it is wrong not to share the money with your siblings.
Listen to your conscience in this situation. If you are questioning whether it is right to keep the money for yourself, it suggests that you may feel guilty about not sharing it. Consider sharing the proceeds from the sale of the precious metal with your siblings to avoid any potential estrangement. Fairly dividing the money will help maintain a healthy relationship among your siblings.
Etiquette for Leaving a Restaurant When Others Are Waiting
A friend of yours was asked to leave a restaurant after paying the bill because there were people waiting for tables. Your friend was highly insulted by this request, while you believe it is courteous to leave when others are waiting. What is the proper etiquette in this situation?
According to Priscilla, an operations manager at a popular restaurant in Beverly Hills, some establishments have a time limit for diners to vacate their tables. This time limit is typically around 90 minutes, although it may be extended to 120 minutes for larger parties.
In this scenario, it would have been more appropriate for the manager, rather than the server, to approach your friend and ask them to give up the table. The interaction does not have to be unpleasant. A manager could offer the patron a seat at the bar or a complimentary drink or dessert as a gesture of good customer relations.
Remember, it is essential to be considerate of others when dining out and to follow any time limits set by the restaurant.
